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4 Simple Tips for Shy Introverts: How To Attend Events Without Feeling Overwhelm or Anxiety

Hey Shy Sister, I SEE YOU!!!! I hear your heart beating a hundred beats per second as you consider attending that upcoming event...I do. I get you because I was you and if I am honest, I still get butterflies in my core but thank God they don't feel like 100 lb butterflies! 

For years upon years, the thought of attending sleepovers, friend dates, and eventually Women's Retreats terrified me. My insecurity kept me shackeled. My shyness kept me hidden. My introvertedness kept me still eventhough my heart was screaming inside for courage and bravery to participate and have the type of Friends you see on TV and in the movies. 

Growing up, my physical appearance crippled me. I thought my legs were wonky, my nose was too big for my face, and my ears were too similar to Dumbo's. Everyone else was beautiful and I felt ugly. There was a point in my life I had braces and severe cystic acne. My skincare routine was as long as applying make up beginning in 5th Grade through....college. Never in a million years would my younger self have imagined one day I would not only walk out the front door with a naked face, but that I would go Live on social media and bare my skin to teach skin care and make up. Glory to God He is a miracle worker!! I used to be terrified to sweat for fear my make up would smudge or wear off. I was terrified of pool parties or game days for the same reason. Not to mention PE in school. Hugging someone was also nerve-racking as you can imagine...you're getting up close and personal and you might accidentally wipe your 99 layers of make up off on their blouse. *Tip: Setting powder, side hugs and chin up for bear hugs! You're Welcome! 

The thought of attending a sleepover, at every age, was...well, it was NOT an option. I just didn't.

Until God brought me Beth well into my adult life. This obvious extrovert Sister Friend asked me if I was attending the Women of Joy Conference, a 3hr drive from Houston and I politely said No. I didn't really have the money to do the event, gas, hotel and food but the MAIN reason was, insecurity. If you've been a Christ Follower for a while, you know as well as I do, God was really the One inviting me.  She says, " You have to come with us. You can ride with me and I have room for 1 more in my hotel room." I didn't know how to get out of it. I said..."Okay."

This one Yes was pivotal in my life. If you imagine the Domino designs people create on the floor with intricate swirls and patterns where each Domino leans over to touch the other, this was the tap of the first Domino. Since then, God has challenged me to step out in faith, leaning onto Him trusting that within my own creative design He has mapped out for me, He has everything lined up and I do not need to fear.

This is the essence of my Encouragement Ministry. The reason I share authentically from my heart, is If we allow insecurity to keep us hidden, shackled to fear, we won't be fully living and if we aren't living, we are dying and if we are dying, we aren't shining the Light of Jesus who are in desperate need of LIFE! We are leaving people in the place we want to not be in ourselves, living a life on repeat: eat, sleep, work, repeat. It feels robotic and meaningless. Our soul feels numb as we play small and hide our Light. If we can be humble and brave enough to realize it, we are a Domino piece in someone else's life and if we are standing too far away, when they lean our way, the fall into an empty space. How wonderful when we stand close enough to touch the life of the person next to us! When iron strikes iron, sparks happen and even wet wood ignites.

Here are 4 Simple Steps you can take to Prepare Yourself to Get Out There and Attend the Event, Workshop, Whatever it is with our Overwhelm and Anxiety...

1.) Spiritually Prepare Yourself
Seek first God's will. Pray for peace in your spirit and trust His provisions. He is not going to bring you to a place and ask you to lean on Him only for Him to move away and you fall onto an empty space. He is near and He holds you close. Soak yourself in Scriptures. As you get ready, turn up your favorite Worship. Write out your favorite verse and stick it in your purse, or grab a little cross or rock, a trinket, something small you can pray with and stick it in your pocket to hold for the moments you feel insecurity try to temp you. Another wonderful opportunity is to as your friend to pray over you and cover you during your time away. Such a sweet gift and it allows us to boast in the strength of our Lord and Savior.

2.) Physically Prepare Yourself
The week before I know I have a big thing coming up that has me nervous, I prepare my body. It will look different for  each of us. For me, I will make the effort to walk everyday and drink lots of water to hydrate my stress deplete. I will make sure I am taking my vitamins daily and especially create space to be still and know that God is preparing me and blessing my actions to armor up and bring my Light out from under the bushel. Of course, simple things like doing your nails or giving yourself a facial if that makes you smile. 

3.) Emotionally Prepare Yourself
It sounds silly to practice but it's helpful muscle and mind memory skills if you are worried about introducing yourself  or having conversations. Get outside and chat with the neighbors, ask your Cashier how her day is going. Ask a friend out to lunch or do a Face Time chat with you to catch up on life. Break out of the subconscious thinking that you aren't enough, you're not good at talking or that you don't know what to say. You do! Remember, God has prepared you and you need to be still and know He's near. 

4.) Buddy Up
I love love love the Buddy System even as an adult. I am blessed to be married to an extrovert so hiding behind him all these years has been a nice enabling blessing for me, lol. So this is where I had to grow the most but cold turkey doesn't work for me and I realize I am much more courageous when I am accountable and I am able to learn by observation. So, instead of going alone, I would invite or partner up with another Sister. Letting go of pride and fear of judgement, I share my nerves with her, letting her know this is where I am leaning into her courage and care for me. I share honestly so she is aware I am stretching myself and she will know where to stretch me a little or back me up if she feels my overwhelm. This has been such a great gift, being able to observe by way of mentorship up close, in real time, in real moments and learn and practice confidence and public posture. She is your iron that will sharpen you when you lean against her and she is ready for it.

When I consider stepping out of my comfort zone, I am reminded it's not about me. I am here as an instrument of God to share His heart for them, thru mine, so I must be open to His flowing through me. 

Fear keeps the focus on us, while God keeps us focused on others. 

The opportunity to bless, empower, encourage, uplift, support and serve someone else in a Divine appointment is such an exhilarating and humbling experience. To sit front row and watch God work through someone who has considered herself dull, inadequate and small, is the highest high the human soul can feel. But God.

If you struggle with insecurity with your outward appearance can I speak a word of truth over you? You ARE absolutely beautiful. Some women look like models even with a naked face and messy bun but if their soul is not lit up, they appear dull and toxic. Pay attention to who you are drawn to and why. for me, it's neither their title, status or outward beauty...but a woman who's heart sees mine, a women who's energy ignites mine, a woman who stands tall with resilience and peace, unshaken by the opinions of opposition. A woman who loves and fears the Lord is captivating and my soul connects to hers.

We don't need to be accepted into the room. We are already accepted, covered and enough, just as we are! Who's soul can you touch there? Who's wet wood needs a little spark to ignite? Be Her.

Father God, today I am lifting up to you all of us...all of us who have felt small, unimportant, dull, incapable, not qualified, insecure. I am lifting us up into Your mighty transforming presence that at the command of Your Name alone, we have all we need to accomplish the things You have purposed us for, called us to, trusting that You hold us together. We believe Your Spirit dwells with us and that gives us all we need and we can do all things through Your gracious love. Bind the enemy's lies from our hearts and minds Lord. Empty us from all that wonders and fill us with more of You. We believe we are more than conquerors, help us to walk it out by faith. Surround us with courageous and brave women who can help teach us and model for us what living by faith looks like. Give us Your eyes to see and ears to hear. Soak us in your peace. Return to us our joy we let the enemy steal away.
We trust You Lord. Forgive our moments of disbelief. Thank You for Your Grace, it is sufficient for us. You are worthy and we receive You in us to work all things according to Your glory and our good. Thank You for Sisters to gird us up when we fall weary. You are so good. Amen. 


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Heart Hugs and Blessings,
Michele
I am so glad (and honored) you are here! I have been blogging since 2009 as a way to journal out my thoughts as I pray God would use these story shares as practical heart encouragements for YOU TOO! We all need to recall and share those Living Stone moments.
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I share encouragement over on the Facebooks on my personal profile as well as the Encouragement Page Livin’ Where Faith Is on too.

I have two free resources for you: 
1.) If you'd like some help sharing YOUR story or testimony, here's a link to grab the fill in the blank PDF I created to help you get started sharing YOUR heart with others! There's a video that goes with it over in the But God Sister Squad Community on Facebook.

2.) www.CreatingSpaceforGrace.com is PDF I share the things I have done (and do) the help guard my peace on the daily!!! I get asked about this all the time, this is my practical resource guide!

Heart Hugs and Blessings,

Michele"For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith--that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen."
Ephesians 3:14-21 ESV


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A Little About My Heart

 
Born and raised in the church, a Christ Follower, Kingdom Encourager, Wife, Mama, and an Overcomer! GLORY TO GOD!!

I lived most of my life fearful, anxious, and insecure.. I found myself always hiding but serving, striving for perfection in my less-thanness, as a way to earn my worth to self, God and others, sacrificing in the name of serving, hospitality and humility...putting others needs before my own from a place of hiding in my lack, and trying to earn value rather than serving in the space of grace, confident faith and overflowing love. 

Never attaining, only to lead a life of more insecurity, overwhelm, anxiety, and panic, screaming to break free from this bondage, to be that actual strong, courageous Christian Woman everyone else seemed to be, but me. 

BUT GOD.

In 2009, Where Faith Is was born as a blog, learning my voice behind the safety of a keyboard, building courage to speak my truth behind the screen...and here all these years later, Little by little, God is expanding my heart boundaries as He reveals more of His to me. I am so excited to share so freely! 

I especially love being an encourager to other encouragers in the faith who know they are called to encourage yet they themselves struggle with their value and ability. Isn't that how the enemy works? He tries to disqualify us in the same area we are called to shine! What an irony!  

I believe if more people let go of fear and insecurity, surrendered to grace and BELIEVED their value, their spark for life will return to a roaring fire that lights up wet wood! 

When women choose to walk courageous and strong in body, mind and spirit...they step out of the boat and walk on water as Peter did, part the waters like Moses and set more people FREE in His name through their Divine purpose to the Glory of GOD! We are each a Light House of Strength on the shorelines of Grace . 

Friend, you may not believe it, but you are meant for more than eat/sleep/work/repeat. You are also equipped with good works to serve and bless the Kingdom Body, and the world with His Love, through YOU! You've got to surrender your fear and let Him lead you.

You are more able than you think you are and most likely, the thing you feel is the weakest part of you is the strongest thing about you!

If you are an introvert too and want to be a part of our newly launching online community, we are here for you!! Let's Connect! It's an honor to encourage the Encouragers.

I am H.I.S. (Heart In Surrender & Service).

Hugs & Blessings, 
Michele

"So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." Philippians 2:1-4

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