Embracing Forgiveness and Love: Lessons from the Resurrection
In the aftermath of Easter, many of us find ourselves reflecting on the profound lessons of the resurrection. This period is not just a celebration of renewal but also a time to embrace the virtues of forgiveness and love, as exemplified by Jesus Christ.
When Love Becomes "Revenge"
The resurrection story teaches us a powerful paradox: sometimes the greatest "revenge" isn't revenge at all, but rather a demonstration of radical love. When Jesus rose from the dead after being betrayed and crucified, He didn't seek retribution against those who wronged Him. Instead, He offered forgiveness and reconciliation. This unexpected response to betrayal shows us that love can be the most transformative force in overcoming evil.
As the apostle Paul reminds us in Romans 12:21, "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." This principle stands at the heart of the Christian faith and offers us wisdom for our daily interactions.
Choosing Forgiveness When Hurt Runs Deep
We've all experienced betrayal, hurt, or injustice that stirs our desire for revenge. The natural human instinct when wounded is to strike back. Yet the resurrection narrative challenges this reflexive response.
Jesus, despite having divine power at His disposal, chose the path of loving kindness. Even from the cross, He prayed, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:34). This example sets a high standard for how we might respond when wronged.
Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning harmful actions or remaining in unhealthy situations. Rather, it's about releasing ourselves from the prison of bitterness and allowing God's healing to work in our hearts.
Love as a Dividing Line
Interestingly, love serves as both a unifier and a divider. It draws together those who embrace its principles while sometimes creating separation from those who reject them. This doesn't mean we withhold love from anyone, but rather that living by love's principles may distinguish us from prevailing cultural norms.
When we choose love as our "revenge," we participate in transforming not only our personal relationships but potentially our communities and beyond. Every act of forgiveness creates ripples that extend far beyond the initial interaction.
Living with Grace: Self-Control, Patience, and Mercy
Embracing resurrection principles in daily life requires cultivating specific virtues:
- Self-control allows us to pause before reacting with anger
- Patience gives others space to grow and change
- Mercy extends compassion even when it isn't deserved
These qualities don't come naturally but develop through intentional practice and spiritual growth. The resurrection reminds us that with God's help, we can embody these virtues even in challenging circumstances.
Practical Steps for Resurrection Living
1. Reflect Before Reacting
When someone hurts or offends you, take a moment to breathe and consider your response. Ask yourself: "How might love respond here?" This pause can prevent words or actions you might later regret.
2. Seek God's Kingdom First
Jesus taught us to "seek first the kingdom of God" (Matthew 6:33). When we align our priorities with divine values, responses of forgiveness and love become more natural. This spiritual foundation nurtures the fruits of faith, hope, and love in our lives.
3. Embrace Daily Renewal
The resurrection isn't just a historical event but a model for daily renewal. Each morning offers a fresh opportunity to:
- Purify our hearts from resentment
- Walk in mercy toward others
- Choose love over revenge
4. Practice Purposeful Forgiveness
Forgiveness is rarely a one-time decision but often a process of daily surrender. When memories of hurt resurface, recommit to your choice to forgive and ask for divine help in maintaining that commitment.
The Ultimate "Revenge"
Perhaps the most powerful aspect of resurrection living is how it transforms not only situations but people. When we respond to hatred with love, to cruelty with kindness, we participate in God's redemptive work in the world.
This approach to life offers freedom from the exhausting cycle of anger and retribution. It creates space for healing and reconciliation that revenge can never achieve. In this way, love becomes the ultimate "revenge" against everything that seeks to destroy and divide us.
As we continue to reflect on the resurrection's meaning, let's challenge ourselves to apply its principles to our daily interactions. When faced with opportunities for revenge, may we remember the example set for us and choose the more excellent way of love.
God Love YOU!!!!!
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We are H.I.S. (Hearts in Surrender)
Blessings,
Michele
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Feeling overwhelmed and on the brink of burnout is a common experience among Christian women juggling multiple responsibilities. With a staggering rise in burnout rates, notably among pastors, it's evident that this issue extends throughout the community, impacting personal well-being and spiritual health. Embracing rest, as modeled by The Creator on the seventh day, is crucial for balancing life, work, and faith.
The constant busyness many women experience can be spiritually, emotionally, and physically draining, compounded by the belief that rest is unspiritual or selfish. Yet, recognizing rest as a divine gift can transform our approach to life’s demands. By looking at Moses, we learn about the power of delegation, trusting in divine provision, facing challenges with faith, and nurturing relationships—all essential strategies to counter burnout.
Christian women can apply these lessons by embracing God-given rest, sharing responsibilities, nurturing their spiritual life, and building supportive relationships. Rest is not laziness; it’s essential for maintaining peace, wellness, and wholeness. As we learn to navigate life with balance and grace, let’s follow these biblical principles and enjoy the fullness of life as intended.
Read more...In the spirit of Valentine's Day, this blog post reflects on the profound lessons learned from three unique friendships, each illustrating different facets of love and connection. The first story recounts a friendship with a pastor's wife that blossomed unexpectedly, teaching the value of mutual support and growth in leadership and faith. This relationship, divinely orchestrated, became a cornerstone for both individuals during a crucial time of personal development and ministry.
The second narrative explores an unexpected bond formed during a sabbatical in Florida, where the author, initially resistant to new connections, found a friend whose outgoing nature and hospitality were exactly what was needed for spiritual growth. This friendship, though unplanned, played a vital role in deepening the author's relationship with the Lord, showcasing how God uses others to support us in our spiritual journeys. The beauty of this connection lay in its unexpectedness and the profound impact it had on both individuals.
Finally, the third story describes a surprising friendship formed at a women's conference, where the author and a stranger were assigned as roommates. Both women were dealing with personal struggles, particularly the roommate who was grieving a recent miscarriage. Their shared experiences of loss and understanding created a deep, comforting bond, demonstrating how God can bring people together in the most unexpected ways to provide solace and companionship. These stories collectively highlight the mysterious and wonderful ways in which friendships can manifest and nurture our souls.
Read more...In a world where many of us wear metaphorical masks to navigate our diverse roles, this article reflects on the journey of shedding those masks to reveal authenticity. The writer describes how perpetual smiling masks served as armor, presenting an image of strength and reliability while simultaneously concealing personal struggles and vulnerability. This narrative highlights the isolating nature of independence without community, encouraging a balance between giving to others and finding strength in one’s own needs being met.
The blog post underscores a transformative journey towards authentic leadership through the removal of such masks. As the writer shares personal struggles, it fosters a newfound connection with others facing similar challenges. The notion here is that true courage lies in vulnerability, where sharing both blessings and burdens bridges gaps and transforms previous protective barriers into collective strength and understanding.
Ultimately, the article advocates for genuine interactions surrounded by supportive communities that allow leaders to flourish. It emphasizes the importance of being supported by trusted friends and mentors, encouraging leaders to accept help and find solace in shared experiences. Embracing authenticity, leaders can demonstrate strength, instill healing, and foster an environment that allows their circle of influence to thrive genuinely and holistically.
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Where are my shy-ish Introverts at? I don't know about you but until recent years, it wasn't that I didn't want to have more new friends....I just didn't have the energy or strength to develop the friendships, so I thought. If you've experienced chronic fatigue or ailments, you know what I mean.
And since I am committed to always being transparent, deep inside there was a part of me that was also afraid to put myself out there and risk rejection. So I rejected myself on their behalf and avoided the pain of the potential, hypothetical rejection of connection. Instead, I stayed in the back, busy being....blocking all with a shy smile on my face.
The Lord knows the desires of our hearts and meets us where we are, giving us who and what we need for each season.
There are seasons He needs us to focus on friendship with Him above all else, learning to trust, learning who we are in Him, learning what we control and what we can't, learning the giving and receiving....so much...
I have been in seasons He was like, "Hey, here's a friend for ya!" and I wasn't even looking!! He's so gracious knowing what (and who) we need in our lives. When we trust Him, we learn how to let my heart open more quickly to the invitation to connect with a new heart. Not to say that they have full access, time reveals that part or permissions, but instead of avoiding them, we have opportunity to embrace them.
It has been so much fun finally coming back out of what has felt like hibernation...I have prayed and asked the Lord to enlarge my circle of trust for mutually connected heart sisters.
If you've ever had one-way friendships, you understand the mutually connected part....I have had both. One way, in that they didn't reciprocate the same way I was giving for whatever reason. Relationships have varying purposes and seasons. Sometimes we just grow apart or absent-minded and unintentional with our energy and focus.
Mutually connected for me means we have the same desire to serve and bless the other. It's reciprocal. These are much more rare to find the older we get. I am so thankful for the few the Lord has blessed me with. We show up in like-heartedness. No expectations, just desire to be in each other's lives and sharing life together whatever that looks like at any given season of time. Whether it is a few times a year getting together or a weekly coffee date, tis the season.
Some relationships are built or maintained online only. Some are from years past, an old friend. Some are in the the every day mix of things, doing life together, while others are random life pop ins and spontaneous moments together.
There's no right or wrong way to "friend." As we each play a part in the Body, so do we each
in the Heart of one another.
So as I look at the crowded tables, or the tables I don't feel like I am qualified to sit at, I pray and ask God to lead me to the table God has saved a seat for me. We can trust Him in this space, taking our eyes off of ourself, shifting away from fears, and focus on what He has in store.
Then, God gives us the invitation to ask Him for help filling the other seats at the table, unafraid and with eager anticipation for the heart coming to sit beside us. Maybe they will be a mutually connected sister-friend. Maybe they are a one way Divine appointment to love on for such a time as this alone, or perhaps we are their Divine appointment to receive love from.
For those of us who serve others through Hospitality and Encouragement, it's easy to get caught up thinking we are there to give, which is great, but one of the lessons I have had to learn, is God also places us at tables from which we are to receive, for such a time as this.
Are you ready in heart to look beyond your familiar circles and welcome new hearts to your "friendship table?"
Here are some ways to look for new Christian friendships:
- Be Intentional: Pray, asking God to prepare your heart and help you see the ones He has gifted to you in a season. You never know where these friendships will come from. But God does!
- Get Involved: Seek opportunities to surround yourself with other women who have common interests as you, seek friendships from different backgrounds, ages, or life stages. These relationships can broaden your perspective and deepen your faith whether they become part of your very inner circle or otherwise. I recently experienced this and I cherish my new friends so much.
- Practice Hospitality: Open your heart and if possible, your home. Set up a meet up online or off. Sharing a coffee or attending an event together is a powerful way to make new connections but as an Introvert especially if you lean towards shyness, don't wait around for the invite! BE the invite...even if it's on Zoom! I know it takes more from you if you're an Introvert or kinda on the shy side, but I promise you, the blessing is so good when you push past the nerve blocks.
- Join or Start a Small Group: This provides a structured environment to meet new people and grow together in faith around a topic you are both interested in whether it be online or offline and you don't have to lead it, just join it, until you're ready to create one.
- Volunteer: Serving alongside others often opens doors to meaningful friendships united by a common purpose.
- Be Patient: New friendships take time to develop. Don't rush the process or have set expectations of what the connection will be; allow trust and connection to grow into what God has planned.
- Pray for those Mutual Connections: Ask God to bring people into your life who will mutually encourage and stir up your faith as you give the same.
Remember, expanding your friendship circle and building a bigger table isn't always easy. It might feel awkward or uncomfortable at first, especially for you shy Introverts. You might encounter differences in opinions or experiences. It's a great way to learn from others as we step outside of our own bubbles.
While I look to connect with people who have the same season as me, I also look for others who know more than me and have different experiences and gifting, expanding my little world, often sharpening me in places I find I am weaker.
Iron sharpening iron relationships are beautiful especially when they are inside the precious heart connection of Sisters.
As you welcome new friends into your heart, be prepared to both give and receive. You have unique gifts and experiences to offer others. Widening your friendship circle isn't just about personal growth; it's about building The Body of Christ, bringing Him the glory as we shine our Lights as a city on a hill!
Let's pray: Spirit, lead us, help us with courageous steps. Heavenly Father, give us courage to reach out beyond our comfort zones. Help us to see others as You see them, and to build friendships that reflect Your love. May our widening circles of friendship and tables we help build bring glory to Your name. Cast off all fear. Clear the seats set by You and help us partner with You to fill them, welcoming in the heart connections You have prepared for each one present. We trust You. We shine for You. We love You most. Amen.
As you expand your Christian friendships, remember Jesus' words in John 15:12, "Love each other as I have loved you." Let this be the foundation of all your friendships, old and new.
For more in the Sister Series, check out a recent one here.
If you struggle with social courage, I've got you with some practical help here.
Hugs & Love, Michele
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Heart Hugs and Blessings,
Michele
