“Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.””
1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV
The company we keep is crucial on the path we walk in life. The apostle Paul's words in 1 Corinthians 15:33 ring true today: "Do not be deceived: 'Bad company ruins good morals.'" This wisdom invites us to reflect on the influences in our lives and how they shape our walk with God.Imagine your life as a garden. Each relationship you nurture is a plant in this garden.
Some relationships are like vibrant flowers, bringing beauty and joy into the view of our days. Others might be like sturdy trees, offering support and shelter. However – some can be weeds, threatening to choke out the good growth.
So how do we cultivate a garden that glorifies God? We must be intentional about the relationships we nurture, being careful of not cultivating a garden of weeds. Every plant has it's own planned purpose, producing blooms or fruits. As we grow in years, our ability to identify weeds from blossoms become more clear. We no longer tolerate the mess of weeds because we know how quickly they spread and choke out all that is good. We understand the blossom of a weed is not the same as the blossom of a flowering plant of produce.
Ask yourself:
Do my friends draw me closer to Christ or pull me away?
Do they encourage my faith or challenge it negatively?
The answer to these questions can help you discern which relationships to invest in deeply.
Remember, not everyone who enters your life is meant to stay forever. Some are seasonal, bringing specific lessons or experiences. Others are perennial, growing alongside you through various seasons of life.
Pray for discernment to recognize the role each person plays in your spiritual journey. As you evaluate your relationships, don't be discouraged if you find some that don't align with your faith goals. Instead, see it as an opportunity for growth as you establish boundaries that create health borders around your "flower beds" of relationships. Perhaps God is calling you to be a blossom in someone's life, or maybe He's prompting you to seek out new, uplifting friendships to invite into your own garden.
Cultivating godly friendships as an adult isn't always easy, but it's worth the effort. Wisdom and discernment are two foundational ways we create new connections with others. Praying, asking God to show us who He has planned for us to connect with, doing our part to be authentically ourself in order to create other authentic connections. It's so important we show up as we are in order for others to see us for who we are, not who we wish to be or used to be.
These relationships can be a source of encouragement, accountability, and spiritual growth. They can challenge you to dive deeper into God's Word, pray more fervently, and live out your faith more boldly.
As you tend to your garden of relationships, remember that Jesus is the master gardener. He knows exactly what your soul needs to flourish. Trust Him to guide you, prune what's necessary, and help new, life-giving relationships bloom.
Let's pray: Lord, grant us wisdom in our friendships. Help us cultivate relationships that draw us closer to You and reflect Your love to others. Give us Your eyes to see who You have brought into our Garden. Help us grow in our authentic blooms so we can share from a pure heart and mind, that others may see the awesomeness of You are our Creator, Healer and King. You are the Master Gardner and we trust Your pruning and planting. In Your Son's Amazing Name, Amen.
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Have you noticed how we can become blind to the familiar, such as staring through a dirty window without realizing it? This same principle often applies to our spiritual lives, physical bodies, and thought patterns. Gradual neglect can lead to a build-up of "dirt" that clouds our vision and hinders our ability to see God's beauty and truth clearly.
Much like cleaning a long-neglected window, addressing the issues that obstruct our spiritual vision requires effort, honesty, and humility. God provides us with moments of clarity through sermons, conversations, worship songs, and reflection, offering opportunities for the Holy Spirit to work within us. By embracing these moments, we can clear away the obstacles obstructing His light.
Maintaining spiritual clarity involves cultivating daily habits of prayer, Bible study, and self-reflection, akin to the regular maintenance of a clean window. By staying vigilant and checking for anything that obscures our view of God's truth and beauty, we allow His light to shine more brightly in our lives. As we clear away these hindrances, we can fully appreciate God's presence and understand His Word more deeply.
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Staying Connected: Tips for Maintaining a Strong Parent-Child Relationship
Sending your child off to college is a major life transition for both parents and students. While it’s an exciting time filled with new opportunities and experiences, it can also bring feelings of separation and anxiety. Maintaining a strong parent-child relationship during this period is crucial for emotional support and mutual understanding.
Here are some practical tips to help you stay connected literally and emotionally with your college student....
Establish Clear Communication
1. Set Expectations Early: Before your child leaves for college, have an open discussion about how often and through which means you will communicate. Some students might prefer daily check-ins, while others may be comfortable with weekly updates. No child is the same so don't compare to one of the siblings, what the routine ws in high school, or what other parents are doing. This is between YOU & YOUR TEEN.
2. Use Multiple Platforms: Be open to the use of various communication tools such as texting, calling, video chats, and social media. Each platform offers different advantages, from quick updates to more in-depth conversations. Tech is always changing and our teens are on the cutting edge of it all....you may be learning new things every semester!
3. Respect Their Schedule: Be mindful of your child's class schedule, study times, and social activities. Give them space and grace to get back to you. Avoid calling or texting during known busy periods to prevent disruptions. Be sure to also let them know yours so they know when it's best to catch up!
Create a Routine
4. Schedule Regular Check-ins: Establish a routine for regular check-ins, whether it’s a weekly phone call, a Sunday night video chat, or a daily text message. In the beginning, consistency helps in maintaining a steady connection if they are needing that with you. Don't be alarmed if they say once a week or less...but be honest if you are needing assurance in the beginning months to just hear from them and know they are okay.
5. Share Family Updates: Keep your child informed about family news and events. This helps them feel included and connected to home even when they are far away. We created a Family Chat and Shared Album through our iPhones to stay connected with all 4 kids. Now we have a family snap chat....not my favorite but it's where they are, so I am too!
Offer Support and Encouragement
6. Be a Good Listener: When your child shares their experiences, listen fully without immediately offering solutions or judgments. Sometimes they just need to vent or talk things through. They will stop communicating if they feel a lecture or a big conversation is going to happen every time.
7. Provide Emotional Support: College is stressful. Offer words of encouragement, and remind your child that it's okay to ask for help, whether from you, friends, or campus resources. Occasionally text Scriptures throughout the week without asking any questions. Offer to pray with them on the phone.
8. Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge and celebrate their successes, no matter how small. Whether it’s a good grade, joining a club, or making new friends, positive reinforcement goes a long way.
Encourage Independence
9. Encourage Problem-Solving: Support your child in developing their problem-solving skills by encouraging them to find solutions independently. Do your best to facilitate the questions that lead them to the right place. This fosters confidence and self-reliance. Plus, as it goes with college, they have access to Advisors and Teachers who are there to support the students when it comes to classroom, schedule and campus questions.
10. Respect Their Independence: Give your child the space to grow and make their own decisions. Trust that they are capable of managing their new responsibilities. You may not always understand them or agree, but showing your support with your valued opinions and praying with them, and for them, is valuable.
Stay Involved
11. Visit When Possible: If able, help them with hometown visits as you also plan occasional visits to their college. Attend family weekends, sports events, or other activities where parents are welcome. Just make sure these visits are welcome and don’t intrude on their new life.
12. Send Care Packages: Everyone loves a surprise! Sending a care package with their favorite snacks, a handwritten note, or small essentials can brighten their day and show that you’re thinking of them. As long as you have their address, most dorms allow deliveries from Vendors and Amazon.
Make Time for Personal Interaction
13. Plan Family Events: Coordinate family events during breaks or long weekends. Whether it’s a short trip, a holiday gathering, or just a weekend at home, these moments are invaluable for reconnecting, even if it's a Zoom Party.
14. Engage in Shared Interests: Find common interests that you can share from a distance. Watch the same TV shows, read the same books, or follow the same sports teams. These shared experiences can be great conversation starters, ice breakers and connection places as you both establish new routines and hobbies.
Embrace Technology
15. Use Apps to Stay Connected: There are many apps designed to help families stay in touch. From group chats to shared calendars, find what works best for you and your child.
16. Virtual Activities: Engage in virtual activities together, such as online games, virtual movie nights, or even video call dinners. These activities can create a sense of togetherness despite the physical distance.
Be Patient and Understanding
17. Accept Changes: College is a transformative time. Your child will grow and change, and so will your relationship. Be open to this evolution and adapt your communication style as needed, helping them stay focused on Matthew 6:33, seeking God first always!
18. Give Them Time: There will be periods when your child might be too busy or stressed to communicate frequently. Be patient and understanding during these times, knowing that your support is always there when they need it.
Just as with any relationship, respect and boundaries go a long way! Maintaining a strong parent-child relationship during the college years takes effort, but it’s crucial to remain calm through it all. By staying connected, offering support, and respecting their independence, you can ensure that your bond remains strong and continues to grow even as they (and you!) embark on this new chapter in life.
*If you are reading this and your kiddo is still in high school, implementing some of these healthy habits and processes is beneficial for both you and them. 18 years of living in the same space, hearing each other's voice every day and helping one another creates a void when they move out, which is why this is such a bittersweet time for everyone in the family. Younger siblings will grieve in their own way too, so be mindful of them throughout this life transition.
I pray this is full of helpful resources for you.
Blessings Mama,
Michele
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Our Must-Have Dorm Essentials: What to Pack and What to Leave Behind
Sending your child off to college is a big milestone, and one of the most daunting tasks can be figuring out what they need to bring with them. The goal is to pack efficiently and effectively, ensuring they have everything they need without overpacking. In this blog, I am sharing my must-have dorm essentials, from bedding and kitchen supplies to tech gadgets and study essentials, as well as items that are better left at home. Hope it helps you too as you are preparing for college.
Bedding & Room Essentials
Must-Have Items:
- Comfortable Sheets and Pillowcases: Twin XL size is standard for most dorms.
- Mattress Protector: For hygiene and comfort. She is a hot sleeper and really liked this one the best, from Amazon. Quick tip: You will want to open it before you get to the dorm so it can open up and air out. We wrapped it back up like a sleeping bag - go ahead and place the fitted sheet and top sheet on it, flip it upside-down and roll it up! It's easier with 2 people to help smoosh it! Then, we "tied it" with some packing tape, or if you have 2 belts, one on each end...then tucked it inside a trash bag to easily toss in the car!
- Comforter or Duvet: Choose something cozy and easy to clean.
- Pillows: One for sleeping and perhaps an extra for lounging or decorating.
- Blanket or Throw: For extra warmth or a cozy study session. Keep the super sentimental ones at home, but for sure bring one from home too for comfort. Weighted blankets are great for light sleepers or if your kiddo has some anxiety or nerves happening.
- Diffuser: For air quality as well as emotional support. Here's our favorite LED one from Amazon.
Leave Behind:
- Multiple decorative pillows: They take up space and are rarely used.
- Heavy, oversized comforters: Dorm rooms can be small and warm.
Kitchen Supplies
Must-Have Items:
- Mini Fridge: Great for snacks and drinks. We found ours at Home Depot. Some colleges have re-sell groups too!
- Small Blender for Protein Shakes: Quick healthy options for a meal or snack without all the sugar from the store bought ones. This is ours.
- Microwave and/or Crockpots: Convenient for meals, although some may not allow it. Many floors have a mini-kitchen set up.
- Reusable Water Bottle: Staying hydrated is key. Here's our favorite one. Plus it fits in Jeeps! Don't forget the bottle brush to clean it.
- Dishware: A few plates, bowls, and utensils.
- Coffee Maker: If your student is a coffee drinker, a small coffee maker can be a lifesaver. I would buy this one of she was.
- Fridge Containers: A designated shelf with labeled containers is helpful when sharing a fridge with other students. Grabbing these!
- Paper Towel & Cleaner Combo: Roomates can share the refilling - grabbing this one from Amazon for her room and the shared kitchen space
- Trash Can & Liners: Depending on set up with roommates, having a large one in the room is helpful. Super basic to Bougie!
Leave Behind:
- Large kitchen appliances: Space is limited and most dorms have communal kitchens, and may not allow certain appliances like toasters and instapots.
- Excessive dishware: A few key items will suffice.
Tech Gadgets
Must-Have Items:
- Laptop: Essential for classes, homework, and staying connected. We are an Apple family and use the MacBook Pro.
- Phone Charger Station: Vital for organization of Phone, Watch and Earbuds. We have had this one for 2 years now.
- Power Strip with Surge Protector: Dorms often have limited outlets. Here was our choice from Amazon.
- Portable Charger: For on-the-go device charging.
- Noise-Canceling Headphones: Great for studying or blocking out noise.
- Wireless Earbuds: These have been great and inexpensive.
- Batteries: Few AAA and AA on hand for devices.
Leave Behind:
- Desktop computer: Takes up too much space and is less versatile than a laptop.
- Large sound systems: Can be disruptive and are often unnecessary.
Study Essentials
Must-Have Items:
- Desk Lamp: A good lamp with adjustable brightness and spread for late-night study sessions. I'd do this one next time.
- Notebooks and Binders: For organizing notes and assignments. We found best deals at the Dollar type stores.
- Pens, Pencils, Highlighters: Basic supplies for taking notes. Just grab those when you see Back To School Sales at the local stores.
- Planner or Calendar: To keep track of assignments and important dates. My Super Organized Friend made this one to print! (Reach out to her for all things organization! It's on the PDF.)
- Backpack: Durable and comfortable for carrying books and supplies.
- Additional items: Scissors, paper clips, rubber bands, small desk trash can
Leave Behind:
- Excessive office supplies: Only a minimal amount is typically needed.
- Bulky desk organizers: Space is limited; keep it simple.
Personal Care Items
Must-Have Items:
- Toiletries, etc: Shampoo, conditioner, soap, toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, toilet paper, paper towel, nail care and feminine supplies.
- Shower Caddy: To carry items to and from communal bathrooms. Since her bathroom is in her room, she uses a rolling caddy.
- Towels: A few bath towels and washcloths or scrubby.
- Laundry Basket and Detergent: Essential for laundry days. We loved this one with rollers from Amazon! Tip: Buy a little Tupperware dispenser like for salad dressing, or a type of canteen so they can have a small container of the detergent and not carry a big heavy one!
- First Aid Kit: Basic supplies for minor injuries or illnesses. Here's the one she also tosses in her cr when traveling home.
- Calm Magnesium Mix: So great for stressful days of testing or pmsing, easily mixed into water or any juice. Grab it here on Amazon.
- Electrolytes & Lions Mane Powders: This is a powerhouse juice packet, especially if your student doesn't drink coffee or want to avoid energy drinks.
- Healthy Energy Drink: For the teens who insist on drinking out of the can, here's the one our family drinks on occasion.
Leave Behind:
- Excessive makeup or grooming products: Bring only what is used regularly.
- Large bottles of toiletries: Opt for smaller, more manageable sizes.
Clothing
Must-Have Items:
- Comfortable Clothing: Casual wear for classes and study sessions. Most classrooms are cold, fyi.
- Professional Outfit: For presentations, observations days or job interviews. Some may have dress codes, but basic black or kaki is the normal for bottoms.
- Weather-Appropriate Gear: A good mix of clothing for different seasons and don't forget the umbrella.
- On The Go Weekend or Bag: For on-the-go weekend trips home or otherwise. Something like this from Amazon.
- Shoes: A few pairs, including comfortable walking shoes and shower shoes.
Leave Behind:
- Out-of-season clothes: These can be swapped out during visits home.
- Excessive accessories: Keep it simple and practical.
Miscellaneous Essentials
Must-Have Items:
- Cleaning Supplies: Disinfecting wipes, paper towels, and a small broom or vacuum. Here's our Amazon vacuum.
- Air Purifier: We loved this little set, kept one at home and one for her room. Here they are from Amazon.
- Tower Fan: Dorms can be warm. We grabbed ours at Sams for around $120. It was similar to this one on Amazon.
- Personal Documents: ID, health insurance card, and any necessary paperwork. Keep them in a small dorm safe. Found this one on Amazon.
- Basic Tool Kit: Small screwdriver set and adhesive hooks. We got her this one.
- Decorations: A few simple personal touches to make the space feel like home. There are a variety of wall displays. Here's one from Amazon.
Leave Behind:
- Too many decorations: Keep it minimal to avoid clutter.
- Expensive or irreplaceable items: Dorms are communal spaces and things can get lost or damaged.
By focusing on these must-have items and avoiding overpacking, you can help ensure your student is well-prepared for their college experience while keeping their dorm room organized and functional. Remember, it's always possible to purchase additional items as needed once they've settled in. Happy packing, and best of luck to your college-bound student!
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In our fast-paced lives, even during the Summer, we often rush through tasks, leaving little room for spiritual reflection. However, as Christians, we are called to slow down and dwell in God's presence, as highlighted in Psalm 46:10, "Be still, and know that I am God." This pause allows us to set aside distractions and find peace in His presence, mirroring the example set by Jesus, who frequently withdrew to pray and connect with the Father.
Taking time to linger in God's presence provides space for the Holy Spirit to guide us, offering several transformative benefits. Deepened relationships, renewed strength, and inner peace are among the rewards, as spending undistracted time with God enriches our spiritual lives. Isaiah 40:31 and Philippians 4:6-7 remind us of the strength and peace that come from waiting on the Lord and bringing everything to Him in prayer.
To foster this practice, start by creating a quiet space for worship and Bible reading, and make time to linger and listen after prayer. Recording your thoughts and insights through journaling can also track your spiritual growth. Prioritize this connection with God, beginning with small, manageable time frames, and gradually extending them as you grow more comfortable, allowing His presence to bring more intimacy, peace, and clarity to your life.
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